(EF31) BTP-EF10: Dharma Modifying Negative Thinking and the Never Ending Pursuit of Happiness by Embracing Suffering Behind the Podcast of Episode EF10

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EPISODE EF31 SUMMARY

Spoiler alert: You’re about to listen to a Behind The Podcast (BTP) of Episode EF10, which was Season 1, Episode 8 of the Evolve Faster Podcast titled The Road to Happiness is Inked in Suffering. The driving question of this episode (and this BTP) for you to think through is … Does happiness define the good? It’s a fascinating question that actually has surprisingly little research or philosophical investigation.

As a reminder about Episode EF10: Coming from a wealthy family, most others would only dream of the life Alex leads. Every moment is another silver platter where he is handed all the best education, can have his pick of expensive items and to experience seemingly infinite joys. Although grateful for everything, Alex can’t shake the reality he isn’t happy or fulfilled by any of this at all—nor could he really even define what happiness would look like for him. But why? What could possibly be missing when having everything you want?

The eighth episode of the first season of the Evolve Faster Podcast Episode is driven by the big question Does happiness define the good. We want to be happy, yet there are only a few people who can honestly claim that. So are we hardwired to sadness or simply bad at our job?

To peek behind the curtain of Episode EF10, we’ll dissect the following submitted questions:

  • Why the question “does happiness define the good”?
  • Does this happen to people who are very rich?
  • What is dharma?
  • What did you learn writing this episode?
  • Is Alex Sid from one of the previous episodes? Why does he reappear so many times?
  • Who is Mr. Wright supposed to be? Who is the nameless, tattoo shop guy?
  • And more…

dedication

DEDICATION:  Episode EF10 is dedicated to Kurt Vonnegut, a writer whose ingenuity comes from the purposefully averageness of his perspective. Satirical irony dominates his work, managing to make people laugh out loud and still see the light at the end of some very dark tunnels in the themes of his work.

Kurt Vonnegut quickly emerged as a new star in the world of literature with novels like Player Piano, The Sirens of Titan and Cat’s Cradle. Nevertheless, both before and after fame, Vonnegut struggled with the hardships of a literary writer. 

There’s a belief that people with a unique ‘funny bone’ are often the saddest people. Although this sounds like a paradox, happiness likely does come from grief, and it probably works the other way around as well. Thus, Vonnegut’s work is a testimony to this “satirical fact” about life that happiness many times comes at the price of sadness. And what can we do? His writing generally instructs us to laugh, cry and enjoy all the moments as best we can.

It’s impossible to say if Vonnegut managed to incorporate this in his life, but one thing is sure: he’s been making people around the world laugh — and think — for more than half a century. 

HOW KURT VONNEGUT INSPIRES EF10

Vonnegut and his work are the proof that life will never be just happy or sad, no matter how miserable or happy life makes us. Life will always be life and we have only one option: to ride the river we’re presented with just like the Episode EF10 protagonist. There’s wishful thinking hardwired into our system that one day life will be painless. Sorry. Vonnegut could have written his novels if that was the case.

If you need a good laugh and a fresh insight into the everyday troubles you’re facing, read some of Vonnegut’s work. You won’t be sorry:

inspirations

INSPIRATIONS: Gustave Flaubert, a novelist who knew that without stupidity it’s extremely hard to be happy. Bertrand Russell, a man of many talents, who understood you have to lack things to be happy. Seneca, a stoic who taught us that nobody is constantly happy; if they seem like they are, they probably have more problems than we think. Buddha, who dedicated his life to teaching for us to be happy, we need to be sad. Episode EF10 was further inspired by Morris Mandel, John Lennon, Wataru Sato, Seneca, Aristotle, Chuang-Tzu, Voltaire, Dante Alighieri, Cliche Tattoos. For a full list of data and references please see Episode EF10 Show Notes.

Episode EF10 Summary

Coming from a wealthy family, most others would only dream of the life Alex leads. Every moment is another silver platter where he is handed all the best education, can have his pick of expensive items and to experience seemingly infinite joys. Although grateful for everything, Alex can’t shake the reality he isn’t happy or fulfilled by any of this at all—nor could he really even define what happiness would look like for him. But why? What could possibly be missing when having everything you want?

“It’s not about the destination; it’s about the journey.” This trite expression is one of the modern favorites in a bin of overused cliches we tell ourselves when we start to lack that next hit of happiness. But is it really trite or just misunderstood? Being a cliche doesn’t necessarily make something wrong. Instead, that comes when we don’t actually change things in order to live by the message of such wise life lessons. From Ancient India and Greece, to modern Western Culture, we can find countless theories on what happiness is and how to attain it. So why is our ability to attain it no better today—and, by some measures, on the decline—even after thousands of years of intellectual progress?

references

Alain de Botton, In defence of self-help books, www.theguardian.com. https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2012/may/17/in-defence-of-self-help-books    (Accessed: Feb 23, 2019).

The Dharma, viewonbuddhism.org. http://viewonbuddhism.org/dharma.html    (Accessed: Feb 23, 2019).

episode quotes

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(EF31) BTP-EF10: Dharma Modifying Negative Thinking and the Never Ending Pursuit of Happiness by Embracing Suffering Behind the Podcast of Episode EF10

Many believe that keeping a positive attitude will make you happy. But that’s like thinking you can walk on water by forcing yourself to believe you can.

(EF31) BTP-EF10: Dharma Modifying Negative Thinking and the Never Ending Pursuit of Happiness by Embracing Suffering Behind the Podcast of Episode EF10

Everything you need to know about life is embedded within common clichés and wise quotes; but most don’t invest the time to experience the meanings beneath the words.

(EF31) BTP-EF10: Dharma Modifying Negative Thinking and the Never Ending Pursuit of Happiness by Embracing Suffering Behind the Podcast of Episode EF10

He now had the clearest vision he’d ever had for his life, even though he’d thought about exactly none of the details.

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